Do Your Kids Need More Competitive Capital?
文章的标题 没有专门指出是对女孩的培养 文章内容里 讲女孩的偏多
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"When I was interviewing [job candidates] at Morgan Stanley, if I got a female candidate — because it's banking and you need to be aggressive, you need to be tough — if she played, like, ice hockey, done. My daughter's playing, and I'm just a big believer in kids learning to be confidently aggressive, and I think that plays out in life assertiveness."
I met Madeline while studying 95 families with elementary school-age children who compete in chess, dance, and soccer — research that is the basis for my new book, Playing to Win: Raising Children in a Competitive Culture. I label the lessons and skills that parents hope their children gain from participating in competitive activities "Competitive Kid Capital." The word "capital" applies, because many parents believe that the acquisition of certain character traits associated with vigorous competition will set their daughters up to be the leaders of tomorrow. In particular, as I talked with these parents about the skills and lessons they saw their children gaining from such activities, five themes emerged: (1) internalizing the importance of winning, (2) bouncing back from a loss to win in the future, (3) learning how to perform within time limits, (4) learning how to succeed in stressful situations, and (5) being able to perform under the gaze of others.
One of the questions that interested me was how parents of girls in particular make choices between the three activities, deciding which is best suited to building Competitive Kid Capital for a new generation of women leaders. Madeline also told me, "We have no illusions that our [nine-year-old] daughter is going to be a great athlete. But the team element [is important]... That ability to work on a team was a crucial part of our hiring process. So it's a skill that comes into play much later. It's not just about ball skills or hand-eye coordination."
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还是注重在性格培养
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女孩子子还是重在性格跟气质培养
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让孩子多参加团队性质的competitive sports是被华人妈妈多忽视的一条，其实对男孩更加适用的。
但是孩子是否喜欢competitive sports多半还是由基因决定的，小半收到家长的生活习惯兴趣爱好影响。为了培养孩子的leadership, 爸爸妈妈们自己也要多运动，多social , 参加team sports.
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让孩子多参加团队性质的competitive sports是被华人妈妈多忽视的一条，其实对男孩更加适用的
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分寸非常难把握
太想赢了 又不能享受过程
不想赢 又不是那么进取
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Agree. But why is it only applied to girls?
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确实啊，我们华人家长都太注重学习和音乐了。其实多运动很不错的，既锻炼身体又可以和其他不同学校的朋友玩，从中学会team work和leadership。能够始终坚持下来的不多呢，很多都觉得太辛苦而放弃了。
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完全同意！
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家中只有男孩
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要培养女孩子的性格和气质是没错，但是华人妈妈们忽略了的一点：现代主流社会对有性格有气质女孩的理解跟华人妈妈们眼中的中国传统的“淑女”有点不太一样。
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性格气质我觉得很大程度是天生的
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女儿平平安安，快快乐乐就好。不希望女儿作leader。
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hmmmmm......有意思。目前感受到的就是这样。confidently aggressive的女性同事容易上位，剩下其他被压迫的一群人最大的反应都是咬牙切齿的想这种人什么时候会受到报应，但"报应“never出现。
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hmmmmm......有意思。目前感受到的就是这样。confidently aggressive的女性同事容易上位，剩下其他被压迫的一群人最大的反应都是咬牙切齿的想这种人什么时候会受到报应，但"报应“never出现。
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女孩子还是嫁个好老公最实际
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我一直看成confidentially aggressive，还心想这得有多高深
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如果aggressive的是个男性，大家就没意见了。
传统社会对与女性的expectation就是要温顺，善良，谦卑，母性，包容，勇于自我牺牲，如果女性也要跟男性一样争强好胜追求自我，就是罪大恶极。而且打压她们最起劲的反而是那些“温顺善良”的传统女性，
从女孩的父母角度来看，如果有选择，你们是希望自己的女儿温顺善良，为家庭老公儿子“自我牺牲”，还是希望自己的女儿出人头地，顶天立地，但会招人嫉恨？
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有没有中间值？
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中间值就是两头受气，即被老板给奴役被手下人骂，又被老公孩子公婆给埋怨。
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论坛里的 working mother 大部分都是中间值，
日子没有这么悲惨吧
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坦白说，我希望女儿是中间值，各一半理想，四六分幸福，三七也可以，其它比例会辛苦了。
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哈哈，正解呀。
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的确中国和澳洲对于女性的期望形象不太一样
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